Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Real Life and Your Dreams

For the past few months I've been a stay at home mom. My days were filled with housework and taking care of my son. Then when I got the great news that my book Master's Mistress was to be published life hit fast forward. I didn't know where I was going or how I was getting there, the excitment and adrenaline were pumping through my blood faster 'n a Nascar Rally.

However, reality has set in. Yes my books coming out next year which means that when the time comes I'll have plenty of edits, rewrites, tightening, and such to do before I can really focus on the things I want to. This hasn't dulled my enthusiasm at all, in fact it's only made me want to do more. So here I sit, one manuscript that I've finished and are doing edits on, and two that I've barely started. I'm waiting to hear back on my Christmas novella - on pins and needles I may add - and all this must be done in my spare time.

Finances and time have come to a parting of the ways. So, to keep a steady income coming in I've had to reassess my stance. That means going back to work. I must admit I cheated - I'm working from home, providing day care for two boys. They get along well with my son, and we don't have any issues.

What does this mean for my time? Well it means that the time before I'd spend writing I have now to watch the boys. Time I could spend in teleconfrence or on the computer doing research means that it's field trips to the library. It does not mean that I've stopped writing - I've just prioritized to include the boys.

When real life intrudes on your dreams it can lead to dismay and discouragment. I won't let that happen for two reasons. First of course being that writing is a part of me. I can no more stop writing than I can spread wings and fly. To lose that would mean giving up a part of my identity. And the second reason is of course, its good for me. I'ce come to realize that I can't spend 16 hours a day on the computer - its not good for me, for my family, and quite frankly I think it would kill the love I have for writing.

If you're thinking that you can't mesh your dreams with your reality think again. Prioritize, set limits, and above all don't give up. Keep the faith you have in yourself and in your dreams. Be it a single leap or a series of tiny steps the path that you follow to reach your dreams has no difference, it simply means that you're following that tiny voice within you that belongs to your heart.

Good luck and have a great day.