Monday, June 2, 2014

Reconnecting and Adapting

For those of us who have busy lives the worst thing is that moment when we realize we need to reconnect...Or for some of us its when our family -quite cheerfully- drags us kicking and screaming out the door away from the computer, the phone, the busy schedule that just seems to get more and more full.

Forced to do nothing but reconnect with our loved ones we're at first irritable, sullen even. Don't they understand we're trying to build something, our business, our careers, our dreams...? Too often we think, No by God they don't. They haven't got a clue what it is we're trying to do. We tell them - but its sort of like ships passing at night. There's a vague awareness of them but beyond that, they become a faint memory which stirs when its time to do bath time, homework, dinner. Do we as authors, entrepreneurs, business execs really need to spend 18 hours working to get ahead?

Oh I hear someone saying YES! Running our own business is a full time job, its a twenty-four hour thing. There is no time for procrastination or disorganization. We must be driven. Must be willing to sacrifice ourselves for the greater good...and the bottom line.

But do we sacrifice ourselves or our families and personal lives? Recently, and yes I griped and moaned and glared my way through the first hundred kilometers, I discovered a rather shocking and horrifying fact. By burying myself in work I'm not sacrificing myself. No, I'm sacrificing the very thing which I'm doing this family time. I love my family, they're why its so easy to get up in the morning. But I also have to realize they are also the ones whom I neglect because I'm working on the latest book or the latest releases for the month.

Half way through our trip, it hit me. I was without my computer, without my work, and I was relaxed. You wanna talk about a shocker - I spent 100 kms stressed out of my mind because I didn't have my computer, my writing, the galleys, connection to my staff...and slowly it sunk it while those people are important - I was with the ones who should always be my top priority.

Hard lesson to learn and one I'm still learning how to deal with. How can I, as a business woman and author manage to juggle my full time job, my business, my writing and still  have time to reconnect with my family? It seems now a days we have so little time to dedicated to our loved ones we have to come up with plans, ideas, schedule in time to reconnect even in the most basic of ways. It has become a lost art on how we as a society connect with those living in our homes, part of our lives. And too often, we forget to think on how we are disconnected from them.

Perhaps its time to forget the business, forget the job, the career at least for a moment and do something silly be it go for a walk or just play a rounding game of cards or something that allows us to see our family and friends before us. Disconnect from the electronics and reconnect with the living, breathing people who make up our lives. Even if it is in some small way.

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Crash into Love by Sofia Grey

Road Trippin’ – by the Red Hot Chili Peppers

Have you ever been between homes? Not just for a day or two, but for weeks on end? It’s a weird feeling. When I moved halfway round the world, a few years ago, I lived in a motel for a month while I house hunted. For that period, I didn’t actually have a home and it was strangely uplifting. I could live anywhere I chose, within reason. I could reinvent myself, start a brand new life. The possibilities felt endless, and for the first time in my life I could understand why some people become drifters.

The Lyrics of Road Trippin’ by the Red Hot Chili Peppers sum up this mood:

Road trippin' with my two favorite allies
Fully loaded we got snacks and supplies
It's time to leave this town
It's time to steal away
Let's go get lost

And the video is perfect!

In Crash Into Love, Cass is living in a beachside cottage while she makes decisions about her future. Meeting the sexy – and much younger – Jonah, wasn’t part of her plans. In this excerpt, Jonah has taken Cass to a nearby bar for dinner.

“So, Jonah, where are you from?” I gave him an encouraging smile.
He stared down at the cutlery. “Wellington.” The city was only an hour away from this quiet stretch of coastline, and it made for a popular weekend haven for many city-ites. I’d been living there, too. An unwelcome realization crept in. This would just be a holiday fling for Jonah, the possibility of a few nights of no-strings sex. He would be uncomfortable about giving me too much information in case I tried to find him later, to follow him home like a needy puppy. I took a quick breath into tight lungs. With this delectable, young man, I’d still take that over being alone, even if only for the weekend.
No more personal questions. I produced a bright smile and pretended to examine the menu. “What do you fancy to eat?”


Cass thought spending a month at a beachside hideaway relaxing and collecting shells would be the perfect escape to finish her novel. When she meets the dark and brooding and much younger Jonah, who's staying next door, her book becomes the last thing on her mind.

Jonah would rather stay home alone than go on vacation with his brother and their friends, but does his best to tolerate the situation after being convinced to go. But when he sees the beauty next door, he can’t avoid his attraction.

Together, they break all the rules, but will Cass be able to bring Jonah out of his shell forever, or will he leave her with only the crash of the surf to keep her company?

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Romance author Sofia Grey spends her days managing projects in the corporate world and her nights hanging out with wolf shifters and alpha males. She devours pretty much anything in the fiction line, but she prefers her romances to be hot, and her heroes to have hidden depths. When writing, she enjoys peeling back the layers to expose her characters’ flaws and always makes them work hard for their happy endings.

Music is interwoven so tightly into my writing that I can’t untangle the two. Either I’m listening to a playlist on my iPod, have music seeping from my laptop speakers, or there’s a song playing in my head – sometimes on auto-repeat.

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